Ever heard about the families where the mother is never at home and is always out partying and stuff? My family is the exact opposite of those. My mother never leaves, not for long anyway. Even if she does, it’s for a day that too, it’s either me and mom or dad and mom. Since the last two days I’ve actually realised the sole reason for a mother’s existence in the family, it is the tethering, the connection between all members and how she maintains uplink and downlink with her facial expressions, limiting each individual’s conversation to maintain an optimum exchange. (If you understood the above lines, then it is kind of confirmed that our families are exactly alike.)
So, my mother went to attend my cousin’s wedding on the evening of the 31st of January. A wedding I missed because of my board practical examinations, my brother missed because he had an examination as well and my father missed because me and my dog couldn’t be allowed to stay alone. So, from 4 people going to a wedding it came to just my mother going to it. Different cousin families would still be around during the journey as well as during the proceedings but this post isn’t about how she’s enjoying, rather, it’s about how much of a hard time we guys are having at home.
No. The hard time isn’t about food or us struggling to get up in the morning and get ready. Those things are pretty well, the food is cooked and with some forced food from my paternal relatives who live on the first floor we have ample food for about say, a month given the fact that my mother already cooked us food for three days. She also cooked food for the dog so he has a lot of food too. We generally get up at the right times and have no hard time getting ready either.
The problem arises in the proceedings of the day. How does a day in family go about? Conversation. Thing is father’s and my interests and favourable topics aren’t very common so we have limited things to talk about and when there are two days in between you can imagine those little times of complete silence. Now if my mother would be there, everything would be coordinated like she was the conductor of an orchestra playing Beethoven but in her absence, both of us try to start conversations which after a while drop dead. It’s not like we don’t talk or aren’t bonded, the situation is quite the opposite but still when it comes to a conversation, we have less to talk about.
This is why I realised how important a role my mother plays everyday, just to keep all of us talking in the right amount at the right time. The person who said that the mother is the most important person in the house was in fact 100% correct.
And well, even though we are managing it well, things such as food and getting ready are still a lot easier when she is around… 😛 So, that is typically my first 3 days without my mother.
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Have you ever written an essay in 25 minutes? You have if you have ever sat for the SAT. While the stakes may be higher for a last-minute academic essay, the point is this: do not panic! Instead, read this six-step guide to writing an essay in a day:
1. Understand your goals
Whether you are writing a personal statement for a college or graduate school application, or an essay for a high school or college class, your assignment will have specific goals. Before you begin to write, review these goals. Clearly understanding your objective is essential when working with a shortened timeline.
2. Choose a topic
Under normal circumstances, you might devote several days to brainstorming a promising topic, and then you might write a detailed outline before writing and revising your essay over a week or two. When you are on a tight schedule, this is not possible.
So—write down the first three or four ideas that occur to you. If you cannot think of an appropriate topic, ask a parent or a friend to review the assignment with you. Do not spend more than 10 or 15 minutes on this part of your essay, as the execution ultimately matters more than the idea itself.
In addition, do not stress yourself about selecting the “perfect” topic. Without a topic, you will have no essay to turn in, and any essay is better than no essay. (It naturally follows that any topic is also better than no topic at all.)
3. Set deadlines
Establishing deadlines for a one-day essay is key. Budget 5-10 minutes for brainstorming, 15-20 minutes for creating an outline, and several hours for writing. You can also set aside an hour for feedback and review, and another hour for any necessary revisions. You should also allow for an hour-long break to recharge your mind. Finally, plan to submit your essay several hours before the deadline. A schedule with some flexibility will allow you to adapt to any unforeseen complications.
4. Arrange for reviewers in advance
Whenever possible, arrange for reviewers (such as your parents or friends) first thing in the morning, and let them know when they can expect a draft. When your deadline is in several days or weeks, you have the luxury of finding reviewers after you have finished your draft. With a shorter deadline, you will not have this ability. Be clear on the short turnaround time to ensure as smooth a review period as possible.
5. Outline your essay
There are many resources that can advise you on how to write a wonderful essay, but the purpose of this article is to shape that advice to the demands of a very short timeline. This includes resisting the urge to abandon the outline. Having an outline is even more important for a one-day essay than for a week-long project with a similar word count. A strong outline will keep your essay focused and organized from the start—which is critical when time constraints will limit your rewrites.
Your outline should not be detailed, and it should take no more than 15 or 20 minutes to complete. Determine your hook (see below for more information), and then jot down the threads that connect this moment to your central argument or idea.
6. Stay organized
When you are under pressure, your tendency may be to start writing and to see where your essay goes. Try instead to use a brief anecdote or emotional impact statement (i.e. the “hook” in your opening paragraph) to set the stakes for your essay. This is essentially your opportunity to state why your argument or idea is worth your reader’s attention.
Finally, remember that “perfect is the enemy of good.” Manage your expectations. Your goal should be to write a good essay, not a perfect one. If you have a compelling hook and a well-organized flow of ideas, check your writing for errors, and then send it in.
Brian Witte is a professional SAT tutor with Varsity Tutors, a live learning platform that connects students with personalized instruction to accelerate academic achievement. He earned his Bachelor of Science from the University of Washington and holds a Ph.D. from The Ohio State University
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